Thursday, April 20, 2017

Why Motherhood Isn't Enough


You're probably reading this title and rolling your eyes thinking I'm committing some great motherhood sin by being honest and sharing those words, but let me explain myself. Let me start by saying that motherhood has been the most beautiful, fulfilling, life-giving, fun, and amazing experience. I don't take it lightly that I was gifted this incredible little human. Most days he is the best part of me and my greatest pride. So when I say motherhood isn't enough, I don't mean to disregard all of the areas in my life that it does fill. There are days when motherhood does feel like enough, when it does fill every inch of my being and makes me feel like I'm doing something that is more than enough. But I've realized that motherhood isn't always enough. It's draining, hard, heartbreaking, exhausting, and one of the most difficult jobs I've ever had.

If I make motherhood into an idol in my life, it begins to be more harm than good. If I approach motherhood as the end-all-be-all then I risk the chance of being hurt and empty. Motherhood was made to be good. It's an important role, but it needs to be one among the many roles that you play in this life. When it becomes central to who you are it becomes more about pride and less about the actual child nurturing.

I've allowed myself to be swept up in the pride of it all. I've felt the rise of judgement in my heart towards other moms, I'm guilty of enjoying (a little too much) the pats on the back and being told I'm a great mom, and for spending more time documenting rather than being present with my son. Sure that pride feels great in the moment, but can I share something with you? I feel completely empty after that short burst of pride subsides.

You see, Motherhood can't be enough. There has to be more. You're also a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, and most importantly a child of God. Those areas of your life deserve space to fill you too. If you make motherhood enough than you risk losing out on parts that make you, you. You have talents, desires, gifts, and interests that also need nurturing. You must find time to make yourself a priority too. Light the creative fire in your heart, tend, and nurture it because I can promise you that if you don't you won't be able to be fully the person that your child needs. Without pursuit of passion we become dull and our spark begins to be extinguished.

Am I saying to not let motherhood be a huge part of who you are? No, that is absolutely not what I am saying. I just want to encourage you to see that at the end of the day it can't be the only thing that makes you whole. There has to be more. If not than you risk burning out your spark and not being the mother that your child needs. Please do pour your heart into motherhood, but also pour into other areas of your life too. Be a good mama, wife, daughter, and friend.

You are important, loved, desired, needed, creative, humble, kind, worthy, faithful, strong, incredible, and beautiful. Press into your heart. Press into all that makes you, you and find joy. Let motherhood become one of your greatest adventures in your life, but don't let it consume you. You're doing a great job, mom.