Thursday, December 11, 2014

You'll Never Be Far| Rest Well, Sweet Marty

I wish I had the ability to know the certainty of the future to be able to go back and time and say,"Marty on December 10th there will be an accident and I just need you to stay home that day...stay in bed and away from your car."It's seems so strange to me to feel loss. We spend our days focusing on life and our daily activities and death is something that's in the back of our minds but is never addressed. I think that's how we should live...focused on life and not death, but how do we cope with the idea of death? Is there even a way to get to a place of understanding and accepting death? Death is there and once it's there it can't be changed. I was thinking today as I was walking down the long brick hallway of graduate school watching people slide through different doors along the way, about how there is always an advancement to the next step in our lives first it's birth, then toddler years, teenage years, graduation, marriage, having kids, etc. etc. In those moments, as people we often congratulate others and say "good luck in this next step of your life"but can we think of it the same when our loved ones pass on? Is this just the next step in their journey? Should we celebrate this next step in their life and wish them well? I'm at this place that I just don't know the answer to this although the majority of me would like to believe that yes, celebrate what they accomplished, celebrate the love that they gave and the lives that they touched, and wish them well as they journey on into what I believe as Heaven.

Marty has always been an incredibly kind person, brother, son, uncle, and friend. He always had a spark of excitement and huge heart. He was so funny and every time him and all of our guy friends were together, which by the way was always, you could always expect to be laughing until your stomach ached. He was always Mr. cool and chasing the ladies. Haha. He was the biggest flirt and even made the adults blush with his smooth little compliments and sweet demeanor. We love Marty because he is the kind of person that is universal...he could make anyone gravitate to him and helped be the glue for those friendships. Beyond his flirtatious style, Marty was always protective of the women in his life and every friend that he ever made he considered to be family. When you spoke to him he would genuinely listen and invest himself into how you felt.

You see, this is deep heart ache for so many of us because we have lost a life that brought so much light to this world. He wasn't perfect and he would be the first one to admit that, but he lived his life with love. Tonight the world seems to be spinning just a little bit slower and our world is just a little bit dimmer. I believe that a piece of him will always live in all of us and that he will never be far away. He will continue to walk through this life along side us.

Shine on, Marty. We love you forever and always.

"For Even though I am absent in body, but I am with you in Spirit,
rejoicing to see your good order, and the steadfastness of your
faith in Christ." Colossians 2:5